Amanda Kloots says she has been criticized for working out after her mother-in-law died

Amanda Kloots responded to a follower who tried to shame her.  (Photo: Cliff Lipson/CBS via Getty Images)

Amanda Kloots responded to a follower who tried to shame her. (Photo: Cliff Lipson/CBS via Getty Images)

Don’t tell Amanda Kloots to stop dancing.

The co-host of The speech, 40, took to Instagram on Wednesday to share a message in response to a follower’s direct message. Kloots shared a video of herself taking a dance class, writing in her caption that she received a “reprimand” for “working out and teaching fitness” the day after her late husband’s mother, Lesley Cordero, died. Though “this isn’t the first time someone has texted me telling me I’m not in pain by their standards,” Kloots used the message to explain how she handles pain.

“One very powerful thing I’ve learned through pain is what I need to do for myself to release the pain — what helps me process the trauma so it doesn’t get stuck,” she explained. “One thing I do is training and another [Dancing With the Stars] really helped me realize, dance. Dancing every day during that show released a stored pain that I didn’t even know I still had in my body.”

She added that the day after Lesley’s death, Kloots had signed up for a dance class that was outside her “comfort zone.” Although the Suitable for Christmas the star said she “almost backed out,” eventually went and had an “unforgettable” experience.

“I allowed myself to let myself go completely,” Kloots wrote. “I put every emotion I had in me into every step: the sadness of the loss, the buildup from weeks ago, the PTSD I was experiencing, the shock, the heaviness and weight of the trauma. The I took everything and danced it in front of a group of people I didn’t know. I didn’t look in the mirror. I didn’t judge myself. I just danced. It was one of the most cathartic experiences I’ve ever had. I went back to home and felt like a completely different person, lighter in head, heart and body and filled with new energy and light.”

Kloots shared two morals in his story.

“The first…DON’T LET ANYONE TELL YOU HOW TO SUFFER! Don’t let anyone’s judgment stand in the way of your healing,” she said. with you every single day. The second… GET TO KNOW YOURSELF! What do you need? What makes you feel better? Then DO THOSE THINGS AND DON’T LOOK BACK OR AROUND. GO AHEAD!”

Kloots followers applauded the message in the comment section. One wrote, “There is no grieving manual. People should stop acting like there is one.” Another added, “Grief is so different and personal to everyone. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, just your way. I’ve had so many comments after my fiancé died about what ‘should’ or ‘should’ I shouldn’t be like a mourner, like a widow. People have a very black and white idea of ​​what they would be like, what they want to see about you. It doesn’t work that way, you have to do what feels right!

Kloots, whose husband Nick died of complications from COVID-19 in 2020, has responded to criticism about how he was suffering before. After being criticized for dating again, Kloots has faced backlash on social media.

“I started interviewing other widows live on Instagram and put a face to what people called a ‘horrible thing,'” she explained this month in Cheryl Burke’s video series Dive deep. “I was like, let’s talk about dating after we lose someone. And I was like, let’s get into the honest truth about it because everyone judges me and us for doing it.”

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